Ifueko Benedicta Uwaifo

Fueky, it seems like today that you went to be with the Lord. I remember very clearly our conversations amd your last moments. I wish we had more time together. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, skills and words of wisdom with us. You remain forever in our hearts, we love and miss you loads. Continue to rest with the angels dear sister. Thoughts of you fills my heart always, its me Gaski

I miss you so much Fueky

You were a big part of my life for over 20yrs, O how I always looked up to you for guidance..... during the week while going through the mainland, I couldn't help thinking about all the moments I spent with you...... was really tough doing that because I realized I don't want just the memories, I want now, I want the future with you in it, but really who am I to question God's plans, But God it really really hurts not having her here with us o but I can imagine that you really needed her to be at your bosom.

Fueks we will always love you, words truly fail us but it is well!

I remember 3 years ago when I saw 8 missed calls on my phone on waking up and wondering why Orhue would leave that number of calls! When I called her back and she uttered those words followed by a cry from her’ “ Ifueko has passed on” I was shocked and asked “Which Ifueko? To which she answered “Our Cousin” and I fell down beside the chair near me!!! Good God!! I couldn’t comprehend what I heard and a wave of tears rushed down my eyes and I just couldn’t get up! My darling Ifueko that pain still remain indelible till today and whenever Christmas is approaching i just can’t get over the 18th of December!
It’s still shocking because we the descendants of Obaseki family never prayed we will die young or even have an untimely death amongst us! Our prayers were to grow old and see see our children grow up too but alas God‘s ways are not our ways and we cannot question him he knows best! Please say hello to your kind fatherhearted father and greetings to Mama! We miss you guys and please continue to intercede for us al! Loveeee you! 

Three years just seems like yesterday,  seems like 3months.... or 3 weeks or ....3days...or 3hours since you were called to Glory. Thoughts of you forever fill my heart. Your powerful words ring in my ears whenever I want to take a decision....yes you know you had that much effect on me. So many times, I wish I could run some decisions by you to hear your unbiased, firm stand on issues. How we could always brainstorm on issues. You were the ultimate planner, the organiser, the rallying point for us all....."iye owa" like Daddy use to call you. I could never step into your shoes, I do not even want to try because I want to keep being the liberal vocal one unlike you who would say your opinion in a firm, calm way but yet stern. How lucky I am to have you as an elder sister to look up to. You taught me how to cook delicious meals and I am glad I learnt well because I remember you even contracted me to cook for one of your birthdays at Ajiwe and then always looked forward to tasting my variety of soups all the way from Egbeda..... I could go on and on but the memories will linger on. I am so happy I had the privilege of knowing and loving you as a sister and a friend, if the age difference was much more, you could have been referred to as my mum too because you played that role of assistant mum to most of us. So many friends I have made through you, right from FGC Warri all your set guys were my school Fathers and used to save me from punishment because they knew you. In Benin, in my Oil and Gas career to mention a few, even till date your good works live on. I know you are now our special angel with Daddy and Mama and I believe you will keep interfering for us as we continue on this journey called "Life". I replay your last moments all the time and I remembered in Boston when we went to pray and light a candle for Dad in Church for "All Souls Day' you said "the last moments that he had was the best way for a Christian to pass from this world and you wanted that when the time comes". I believe you were able to get that last anointing through the Fr. Ray and Fr. Godwill, may God accept your beautiful soul. Eternal rest grant unto Ifueko oh Lord and let Perpetual light shine upon her. May the soul of Ifueko Benedicta Uwaifo ( Onaghise) continue to RIP, amen. Love you sister Ifueko........I miss our laughter........love you so much and miss you like crazy........    it is me, Gaski...

For some reason your birthday season this year was different maybe because it would have been a special one; you clocking 45 years. Oh how we dream of things we could do but God has the ultimate plan. One thing I wish though is that He would have given you some more time to speand with us on earth so we could learn more from you. You will forever live in my heart and I am happy that I created so many memories with you.

Happy birthday Darlyn, celebrate with your fellow angels. May St Joseph continue to intercede for us all, amen.
 

IYEOWA ur bday is here but it’s sad to know u are no longer here I want to send u a gift but I know I can’t so I will just make a wish upon a star that u carry my love wherever u are now. May the angels sing to u in the most joyous way happy birthday in heaven my lovely sweetheart sister

Can this pain ever go away? Christmas will never be the same without you. Memories of you keep flooding my mind daily, most are good memories with joy and laughter of the times we shared together but I wish  I could call you to talk about it and laugh. I will forever cherish it. As we have a few hours to the end of the year, I decided to drop you a note that I miss you and wish you were still with us this year. Continue to rest in peace darlyn and be an intercessory angel for us all. We need you like never before. Love you forever.

It’s two years and its still as fresh as that sunday evening,
its two years and the pain and agony over your passing is still so strong!


Fueks words fail us...........

Every single day, with each passing activity or happenings in my life I am reminded of the pain I felt that gloomy Sunday.
Most of the things I learnt or I know as the woman I have become today, I learnt from you (cooking, fashion, carriage, decorum, public speaking to mention a few). it is so hard to say goodbye
How can one forget? you were always a yardstick for me, someone to look up to and aspire to be. When I would want to go out and play football with the boys or engage in some other games (as a tom-boy) you will be home taking care of cooking or cleaning, always so gentle, never complaining and never angry. Mum would always compare and use you to scold me but I was never bordered because i know you would always be so patient to teach me or explain to me in order to meet my ever inquisitive nature. You were a true first daughter and Mum and Dad were so proud of you, I could never meet up to that expectation (iye owa) for I love my middle girl/daughter carefree position... it is so hard to say goodbye. 
Even in my career/business, I would call you up for opinions as my special legal adviser and contract manager who was so firm and unbaised about issues. I was always intrigued with the fact that your vast knowledge for you could always speak about just any topic, it was amazing. i wish i could spend more time with you to learn more, it is so hard to say goodbye
I remember our trip to Houston in 2012 when we were so excited for going to Lakewood and meeting Joel Osteen, we had a special encounter standing next to each other but experience God's presence in a special way, it was awesome. Always the Galleria and the shopping time when we would sneak out to shop alone so Meche would not ask/know what we are buying,then he would call asking where we were and we would laugh so hard because he thought we were "shopaholics". There was so much bonding, sharing deep thoughts and laughter in that trip. I wish we could have another trip like that.

It is so hard to say goodbye to a special soul like you that made me understand what it means to have a sister that means a variety of things to me (friend, adviser, prayer partner,mentor, mother,coach,shopping partner, planner, legal adviser etc).

I miss you so much, the laughter, the joys, the pains, the love, the sharing, the openness, everything about you. I just wish God can give us another opportunity of having you in our lives one more time.

Take care darlyn till we meet to part no more.........love you Fueky.